Edited by Kim Schneider; Stories by Emily Garvey, Lauren Hennen, Christina Ipavec, Kristin Majcher, Rebecca Meiser, Brittany Moffat, Beth Stallings, Carly Toyzan and Aaron Yeager
Charles John “CJ” Latsa, 51 Software development manager, Cleveland State University
The perfect date: Going out to a beach, making a bonfire and cooking dinner. There’s so many things to do at the beach. My favorite beach is at Timberlake.
Something most people don’t know about me: I belong to a gourmet club, and I am a good cook. I’ve been working on a pan-seared, sesame-crusted tuna with a wasabi soy sauce.
My cell phone: I put it on vibrate because I’m always talking to people and interacting, and people have to wait their turn. It’s rude to interrupt when you’re engaged with something.
Biggest turn-on: When a woman can show her femininity in a genuine way with her hair, her scent, her way of dress or her personality.
Biggest turnoff: Crazy people, like women who try to change you or people who are [always] angry
I own too many: Neckties. I still wear them a lot, but I own too many. You can change your outfit by changing an accent like a necktie.
My favorite … place in Cleveland: Timberlake Beach. It’s very Cleveland: It’s quiet, it’s on Lake Erie, and you can tell you’re on Lake Erie versus Florida or the Greek Islands. … sports team: I’m an avid Cavs fan; I’ve got a minor addiction. I’m a big fan of the Burning River Roller Girls; they are so entertaining. And any of the CSU athletic teams who are the reigning McCafferty Trophy winners, which is the school with the most first-place finishers. … book:When All You’ve Ever Wanted Isn’t Enough by Harold Kushner. That happened to be the right book for where I was at that part of my life. … vacation destination: My cousin’s farm on the side of a mountain in Costa Rica. I’ve got several places I go every year, but that’s my favorite. It’s way at the top, and there’s a river that goes through the valley and rainforest, and you can see forever. … dessert: Turtle ice cream sundaes with caramel, chocolate and peanuts from East Coast Original Frozen Custard. They do a good job; anything you get there is good. … blog: I typically don’t follow any blogs.
Facebook: yes or no? I was taking a yoga class, and that’s how they gave out assignments. It was one of those things where you do a 40-day cleanse, and they helped you with your diet. And my 85-year-old aunt asked me if she could store some sheep at my house the other day [through Farmville]. I do keep track of relatives all over the country.
My usual hangout: I’m either at the downtown YMCA’s gym or on my mat at Cleveland Yoga. And Brother’s Lounge is my favorite bar; they have a wide variety of local bands and good food.
In high school I was … mischievous. Enough said. And maybe I still am.
My passion: I’m active. I love to skate, ski, bicycle; I’m always doing something physical.
My best feature: I’d like to say it’s a secret.
My bad habit: If there’s something I do to bug somebody, that is my bad habit.
My first kiss: I don’t kiss and tell.
My guilty pleasure: It’s probably watching sports. I’m pretty good at tracking and DVRing things if I’m not home.
How my ex would describe me: Why don’t we just say I’m memorable.
Blondes or brunettes: Yes.
Going out or staying in: Both. There’s times when you got to get out and times when you want to stay in.
Early, late or right on time: I’m on time.
Dogs or cats: I’ve had both. They’re all good.
My longest relationship: I’d say about eight years.
Beer, wine or martinis: Pinot noir is my favorite wine. I do like Great Lakes Edmund Fitzgerald porter, and I like my martinis chocolate, shaken, not stirred.
Roses or chocolates: Neither. I feel like somebody’s trying to buy my love, or I’m trying to buy someone else’s love with that. I don’t do that.
My No. 1 dating rule: Never, never give up your family, friends or passions for a date.
My deal-breaker: A bad kisser. It’s something where you can tell a good kisser when you meet one.
I hate when a date orders … me around.
Worst pickup line: I’m going to make one up. How about, “Mr. Clooney, can I have your autograph?”
If I could marry anyone: This is the person I’ve been looking for. I don’t know who it is, but it’d be someone with similar values, a few common interests but opposite personality traits. That way we could fill in for each other and make a committed strong team.
On a first date I never … do karaoke. It would leave a lot to be desired.
Best place to meet someone: A university campus. I think you’re going to run into somebody who is intelligent and are trying to better themselves.
Most unusual place I’ve met someone: The all-nude Turkish bath on the Island of Rhodes in Greece. I didn’t know it was nude — or coed. I guess I’ll have to learn Greek for my next trip.
My take on Cleveland’s single scene: I think it’s what you make of it. I think you can have as good an experience in Cleveland as anywhere else.